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Home » My Caregiving Project Has Ended…

My Caregiving Project Has Ended…

July 15, 2024

painting by Rebecca King Hawkinson

 

So I’m going to probably take off the rest of July to wrap up loose ends.

I’m fine – I will miss you all! 

much love,

Janice

p.s. At the top of this page, under the heading “Articles,” there is a tab called “Archives by Date” – just in case you need a “flashback fix” while I’m busy…

 

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  1. Linda says

    July 15, 2024 at 2:38 am

    Take time to take care of yourself

    Reply
    • Susan says

      July 15, 2024 at 8:08 pm

      My caregiving project ended in Dec 2020. It still brings tears and the most beautiful memories. Our loved ones are forever in our hearts. Take care of you and take time for you and your beloved before moving into a new chapter of life. .

      Reply
  2. Dame Eleanor Hull says

    July 15, 2024 at 2:48 am

    I’m sorry. All the best to you and your family.

    Reply
    • Franki says

      July 16, 2024 at 1:15 am

      Thinking of you.

      Reply
  3. Seeley says

    July 15, 2024 at 3:04 am

    Sending you strength and healing from New Zealand 🇳🇿💝💐

    Reply
  4. jc says

    July 15, 2024 at 3:46 am

    Sending love and hugs from San Francisco.

    Reply
  5. Lise says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:07 am

    Love and hugs from The Black Sea

    Reply
  6. Julie says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:07 am

    Sending you sympathy from NZ xx
    Take gentle care of yourself and all the time you need xx

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    • Franki says

      July 16, 2024 at 1:11 am

      Thinking of you.

      Reply
  7. sm says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:08 am

    Sending you love and hugs and wishing you strength and calm and healing, from the UK.

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  8. Angela says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:11 am

    Very sad news. Thinking of you and your family.

    Reply
  9. Sandy b says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:15 am

    Wishing you strength and peace at this time. Hugs.

    Reply
  10. Claire Moquin Oman says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:25 am

    I am so sorry, sending prayers for you and your family from England. Take your time, we will be here when you are ready. <3

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  11. SuzanneGabrielle says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:26 am

    Many of us have been there and are praying for you. You’re wise to step away for a bit to rest, recover and remember the best of times. xoxo S

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  12. Maggie says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:29 am

    Sending best wishes from Scotland.

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  13. Shelby Clark says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:44 am

    Having recently traveled the same path, I understand the mixed feelings of relief and sadness. Take care of yourself and many blessings to your family.

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  14. Libby says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:46 am

    Sending much love and hugs to you, hold yourself kindly

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  15. Laurie says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:46 am

    You are doing exactly as you should. Grieve, rest, and take the time you need to now care for yourself. Love and hugs from Maryland.

    Reply
  16. Erin Contrady says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:03 am

    Thinking of you and your family at this difficult time.

    Reply
  17. AmandaB says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:09 am

    Please take all the time you need. I wish you strength and hope that your happy memories will carry you through this difficult time.

    Reply
  18. Ardyth Eisenberg says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:13 am

    Love, hugs, and sympathy. You’ve been the daughter that every mother hopes for.

    Reply
  19. Dee says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:18 am

    I am so sorry. Sending you love and strenght.

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  20. Wendy says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:29 am

    Sending you heartfelt condolences, Janice! Please, take all the time you need.

    Hugs from Canada!!

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  21. Jean says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:33 am

    Take as much time as you need. Sending you love and hugs from Pennsylvania.

    Reply
  22. Memee says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:36 am

    Thinking of you and sending strength for the days ahead.

    Reply
  23. Ann says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:36 am

    Sending my condolences. Grieving can be as exhausting as caregiving, in a different way. Be kind to yourself.

    Reply
  24. Gail says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:36 am

    You have been a wonderful , devoted daughter. I hope your mother went in peace and that you may have peace now as well. We will welcome you back with open arms when you are ready. Hugs

    Reply
  25. Jenny McBride says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:37 am

    Thinking of you at this time. You bring so much joy. Jenny x

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  26. Jennifer Hisrich says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:48 am

    So very sorry. Take all the time you need.

    Reply
  27. Chris says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:50 am

    Sending you love and strength at this sad time xxx

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  28. Robin J. says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:56 am

    So sorry to hear such sad news. Take the time you need, we will be here.

    Reply
  29. Sarah says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:01 am

    I am so sorry. Wishing you peace and sending love.

    Reply
  30. Sheryl says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:05 am

    Condolences Janice, sending hugs and strength.

    Reply
  31. Lisa Rimmington says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:13 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need. God bless. 🙏❤️

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  32. Abigail says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:16 am

    Please accept my sympathy at this difficult time. You are a strong person, but caregiving is exhausting. Wrapping up those loose ends also takes time and is draining. Consider taking off the rest of the summer so you actually have some time to begin your recovery.

    Reply
  33. Lesley says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:17 am

    I am sorry for your loss. Here’s wishing you peace! Hugs!!

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  34. Mari says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:18 am

    I am sorry. Please take care of yourself.

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  35. Nancy says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:24 am

    So very sorry. Take care of yourself. Love.

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  36. Debra says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:24 am

    Thinking of you as this difficult time. My mother just passed away 2 weeks ago after being in hospice for 3 months. Her memorial service is Saturday. I was her primary caregiver for the last 10 years in addition to working 2 jobs. It is difficult. I’m so sorry for your loss.

    Reply
    • centraltexas says

      July 15, 2024 at 8:22 am

      Debra, that sounds like a grueling 10 years. I hope you can recuperate a little now.

      Reply
    • Sally in St Paul says

      July 15, 2024 at 11:06 am

      Oh Debra, I’m sorry to hear that! What a strange and challenging time (in its own different way from the hard 10 prior years) this must be. Sending you peace and strength and my deepest condolences.

      Reply
  37. lilbear says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:25 am

    All my sympathies to you and yours.

    Reply
  38. Martha says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:27 am

    So sorry for your loss. Please take comfort knowing you have hugs from across the globe.

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  39. Ann says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:33 am

    Love and hugs and wishes for peace for you and your family. Please take as long as you need. We will be here when you’re ready.

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  40. Lisa Blythe says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:37 am

    May light eternal shine upon her.
    Sending you much love from DC.

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  41. Hette says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:46 am

    I’m sorry… do take care of yourself!

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  42. Ginger says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:46 am

    Janice,
    Take all the time you need. Sending love and hugs to you and your family.

    Reply
  43. Natasha says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:49 am

    I’m so sorry. Big hug for you Janice. Take care of yourself.

    Reply
  44. Cindy says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:54 am

    Your grief and sorrow and emptiness will someday be replaced by sweet memories. Hang on to that thought and prayer as you navigate life without your Mom. It will happen!🙏🏻

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  45. Sue says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:57 am

    So very sorry for your loss. Sending hugs.

    Reply
  46. Valla Rogers says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:57 am

    Sending you prayers and love from Delaware.

    Reply
  47. Dee says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:58 am

    I am so sorry for your loss

    You have brought so much beauty into our lives during a dark time for you and your loved one. Thank you.

    May your memories be blessings to you.

    Reply
  48. Doroth from the Jersey Shore says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:58 am

    Do take the time you need. Perhaps even this will not be enough. We will all be here missing you til you return.

    Reply
  49. lena says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:00 am

    {{{ ❤️ }}}

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  50. Kim says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:23 am

    Sending you my sincere condolences and lots of love, Janice.

    Reply
  51. Ezzy says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:24 am

    My sincere condolences. Wishing you smooth sailing through the turbulent emotions and actions to wrap up this chapter. Take all the time you need, we will be here when you return. Hugs and blessings, you are in our thoughts

    Reply
  52. MamaSquirrel says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:27 am

    All my sympathy to you and your family. Your creative and devoted care has been a spark of light for many here.

    Reply
  53. Susan Jackson says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:32 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. May her memory be a blessing. ❤️❤️

    Reply
  54. Sandi says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:35 am

    Sending hugs and condolences from SE Michigan. May your memories bring you comfort.

    Reply
    • Laurie says

      July 18, 2024 at 10:16 am

      I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying for comfort and peace. Take all the time you need.

      Reply
  55. Nancy says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:44 am

    I am so sorry for your loss, and I will be praying for peace and comfort.

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  56. OhSoQuiet says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:51 am

    Love to you. You are not alone.

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  57. Cathy says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:53 am

    Sending hugs Janice. Take the time you need.

    Reply
  58. Ann says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:54 am

    Janice,
    My sympathies on your loss. Your mother was blessed to have such a devoted daughter. Be gentle with yourself in the days and weeks to come.

    Reply
  59. Cheryl says

    July 15, 2024 at 7:55 am

    You are in my thoughts. Wishing you strength at this difficult time. Hugs and love.

    Reply
  60. Beverly says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:03 am

    I’m so sorry. Sending you and your family prayers and hugs. Always remember how happy you made her being a part of your family and the loving care you gave her. That was so special.

    Reply
  61. Ellen Stanclift says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:09 am

    Janice, I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. You do what you need to do. We will be here for you. 🙏🏻

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  62. Amy Sheridan says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:17 am

    I am so sorry. Take all the time you need. My thoughts are with you and your family and friends. Your care made such a difference I am sure. ❤️

    Reply
  63. Dawn Smith says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:20 am

    You have my sympathy and prayers for comfort and rest. What I really want to give you is a gentle hug.

    Reply
  64. Alexis says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:20 am

    I’m sorry for your loss. May you be surrounded by love from your family and friends at this difficult time.

    Reply
  65. Kristen says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:20 am

    Sending you condolences on your loss and wishing you peace through the grieving. Thank you for sharing your journey. Take the time you need, and see you in August or when you feel ready.

    Reply
  66. AK says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:22 am

    We send our love to you, Janice. Wishing you rest, peace and healing.

    Reply
  67. Val says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:32 am

    Janice I’m sorry for your loss.

    I hope the coming weeks give you some peace.

    When the time is right for you to come back, know your blog fans will be waiting to hear from you.

    Reply
  68. Linda M. says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:33 am

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    Reply
  69. Lisa P. says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:34 am

    May her memory be a blessing. Much love and hugs.

    Reply
  70. Pepper from Minnesota says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:34 am

    Love, hugs, and all my best wishes and sympathy Janice. Take all the time you need. We will be here for you.

    Reply
  71. Alex says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:37 am

    Love and hugs 🤗 from Iowa. May you get peace and plenty of rest.

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  72. Dee says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:47 am

    Sorry for your loss. Sending you prayers and strength from BC Canada

    Reply
  73. Pam says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:50 am

    Reading the comments it looks like many of us have been through the similar situations. It’s exhausting mentally and physically and you can tell the loving community you created is supporting you! Sending you heartfelt hugs and best wishes.

    Reply
  74. Rebecca says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:57 am

    Sending you condolences and calm from Ottawa, Canada. Please take all the time you need for rest and recovery.

    Reply
  75. PATRICIA says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:00 am

    I join your many fans/readers in wishing you strength and wisdom in this transitional period. Be kind to yourself. Rest. Read. Eat ice cream. Buy yourself some flowers.

    Reply
  76. Pat from Sarasota says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:12 am

    Sending you love and peace in this time of sorrow. Be as kind and gentle to yourself now as she was to you during her life.

    Reply
  77. albina p herron (vi) says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:12 am

    big hugs

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  78. Kristine Bishop Chapman says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:14 am

    So very sorry…….❤️

    Reply
  79. Tina Batori says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:22 am

    I’ve been amazed that you were able to keep up the blog so regularly, given your other duties. My regards to you and your family as you navigate this tender time. I look forward to seeing you when you are ready. Much love. You make my week much fuller, year by year.

    Reply
  80. beth byrd says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:33 am

    So very sorry for your loss, Janice. May her memories bring you much comfort. May all the outpouring of love here help you as well. Take care.

    Reply
  81. Debra Indy says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:37 am

    Passing on what a friend told me 20 years ago when our father passed after we cared for him through hospice at home. “You will be forever grateful that you made the decision to care for her at home.” The time spent together was priceless, and you will live free of regrets. She will always be in your heart as you heal from the sorrow and transition to the joy of memories.

    Reply
  82. April in SugarLand says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:42 am

    I am so sorry for your loss of your mother. A mom is irreplaceable because they love us the best. You have been an amazing and devoted daughter and such a great example to all of us. May your heart heal and happy memories fill the void left by sorrow and relief.

    Reply
    • Carol says

      July 17, 2024 at 8:41 pm

      Yes. Even though I have a loving husband and family, I know that no one will ever think I am as special and wonderful as my mother did.

      Reply
  83. Helen says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:52 am

    Janice, I’m so very sorry. I’ve been through the care giving journey, it’s ending, and then the process of rebuilding afterwards. You are in my thoughts and prayers with much gratitude for who you are and what you do. ❤️

    Reply
  84. Pipsqueak says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:55 am

    So so sorry for your loss. Sending love, hugs and lots of healing vibes.

    Reply
  85. Christine says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:58 am

    My deepest sympathies. Wishing peace and comfort to you and yours.

    Reply
  86. AmyM says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:04 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and comfort.

    Reply
  87. Carla says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:06 am

    So sorry for your loss! My sympathy to you and your family.

    Reply
  88. Karen says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:06 am

    Sending my love to you at this sad time

    Reply
  89. Celia Price says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:29 am

    So sorry for your loss . Sending my deepest sympathies and much love from London ❤️

    Reply
  90. Elsie W says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:33 am

    Janice,

    Wishing you peace, grace and strength as you move through the next few days and weeks. I’m so sorry for your loss. We will be here when you want to return.

    Reply
  91. Teri Minch says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:37 am

    May you feel God’s love at this difficult time.

    Reply
    • Janice says

      July 15, 2024 at 10:44 am

      I feel it through the kindness of you all!
      hugs,
      Janice

      Reply
  92. Susan from Dublin Ireland says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:43 am

    I hope you allow yourself all the time you need to wrap up those loose ends.

    It is not an easy task and you ought to give it all the time it needs.

    You won’t feel normal at a time like this and if you did I would be worried about you.

    I like others know the pain the loss of your mother brings. People have been telling me it gets easier to bear in time. But everyone “time” is a different length as it’s personal to them.

    Best you can do is take careful care of yourself. Remember to eat and rest when you are able to.

    Oooh, and don’t push yourself to return to work – only do it when you feel able to.

    Deepest condolences to you and yours.

    Susan

    Reply
  93. Carla says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:44 am

    Janice, I’m so sorry. Please take care of yourself. Carla

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  94. Cherry says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:48 am

    My love and condolences to you and yours.

    Reply
  95. Char says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:49 am

    Prayers for you and your family. Take as much time as you need to care for yourself.

    Reply
  96. Arwen7 says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:58 am

    Prayers for comfort and peace going your way, dear Janice.
    Hugs from Barcelona 🫶

    Reply
  97. Sally in St Paul says

    July 15, 2024 at 11:12 am

    Janice, I am so sorry for your loss. This will be quite a strange time navigating a different set of challenges, and I wish you the absolute best in whatever time you need before returning to the blog. Sending you an extra warm hug to make it from here to you!

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  98. Jeri B says

    July 15, 2024 at 11:14 am

    It’s all been said above. May you find peace and may you find joy in your memories. After all the loose ends are tied up we sometimes feel more lost. Take the time you need to heal. We look forward to your return and will wait as long as you need.

    Reply
  99. Diane Smith says

    July 15, 2024 at 11:28 am

    God love you, Janice, and your family. May you find blessings in memories.

    Diane

    Reply
  100. VB from nc says

    July 15, 2024 at 11:29 am

    Oh dear! Always a shock!! May you have all the strength you need to recover, and to get all the multitude of things done too?
    from one of your many many well-wishers.

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  101. Sheri says

    July 15, 2024 at 11:39 am

    Prayers and condolences to you, Janice! I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for the joy and inspiration you’ve continued to bring to all of us during this busy, stressful, and difficult time in your life. Prayers for all the wonderful, cherished memories to stay fresh in your heart and bring you strength and peace.

    Reply
  102. Book Goddess says

    July 15, 2024 at 11:41 am

    Please accept my deepest sympathy. You have been such a gift to your mother!

    Reply
  103. Carol B says

    July 15, 2024 at 12:03 pm

    Sincere condolences for your loss. Hope you find time to remember the good things you shared with your mother.

    Reply
  104. Kristi says

    July 15, 2024 at 12:05 pm

    I am sending love and will be praying for you as you process all these changes. Bless you for your steadfast love and care for your mom.

    Reply
  105. Cynthia says

    July 15, 2024 at 12:13 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss – you have been a wonderful, caring daughter. Take the time you need, we will be here when you are ready to return. Sending you love and strength for navigating this next part of your journey.

    Reply
  106. Shrebee says

    July 15, 2024 at 12:19 pm

    Janice,
    My very deepest condolences ! Big Loooooong Hugs and love ! Prayers for healing and comfort are coming your way big time ! Rest now, after all the details have been managed, you deserve it !

    Reply
  107. Y says

    July 15, 2024 at 12:27 pm

    So very sorry. Please take time to take care you yourself. Sending you love and hugs.

    Reply
  108. Julie Wojszynski says

    July 15, 2024 at 12:40 pm

    Hugs and aloha from Hawaii. It’s been almost a year since my caregiving project ended… Rest.
    Julie

    Reply
  109. Alex West says

    July 15, 2024 at 12:40 pm

    So sorry for your loss. With sympathy from another former carer (for my late husband).

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  110. Maria says

    July 15, 2024 at 12:51 pm

    my heartfelt condolences for your loss. As I’m going through the same thing this week, I know how you feel.

    Reply
    • Janice says

      July 15, 2024 at 1:51 pm

      Sending you much love!
      hugs,
      Janice

      Reply
  111. Pura says

    July 15, 2024 at 12:58 pm

    May you find solace and love in all the beautiful memories. Sending a huge hug of comfort and care.

    Reply
  112. Carol says

    July 15, 2024 at 2:45 pm

    Let me join the condolences from all your friends and fans. There are all kinds of clothing. Wrap yourself in the clothing of love sent from all over the world – rest, heal and take whatever time you need. We will be waiting

    Reply
  113. Jennifer says

    July 15, 2024 at 3:13 pm

    Dear Janice,
    Sending you love and peace. Prayers for you as you grieve. Don’t hurry through it. Take time to experience all the emotions.❤️❤️

    Reply
  114. Kari says

    July 15, 2024 at 3:48 pm

    Janice, one more message to add to all the others. My deepest sympathy for your loss and heartfelt wishes that you will take the time you need to recover. Know that we will miss you and are thinking of you. Take care.

    Reply
  115. Camille says

    July 15, 2024 at 3:58 pm

    Love and hugs from New York. Take your time and take care!
    Camille

    Reply
  116. Diana says

    July 15, 2024 at 4:12 pm

    I’m so sorry! Love, hugs, and prayers from Houston. Take all the time you need for yourself. You’ve been dealing with so much and it’s going to take time to grieve and to get your energy back. We’ll be here when you’re ready. Be extra kind to yourself!

    Reply
  117. Naureen Fatema says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:19 pm

    Dear Janice, As someone who has followed your blog for the past many years and often resorted to it as an escape from reality in the form of colors, especially during stressful times, I feel like it is my duty to reciprocate now. It is my first time posting here and I wish to offer you my best wishes and prayers that you hold on and stay strong during difficult times. This too shall pass.

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  118. NF says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:22 pm

    Dear Janice, As someone who has followed your blog for the past many years and often resorted to it as an escape from reality in the form of colors, especially during stressful times, I feel like it is my duty to reciprocate now. It is my first time posting here and I wish to offer you my best wishes and prayers that you hold on and stay strong during difficult times. This too shall pass.

    Reply
  119. rb says

    July 15, 2024 at 5:29 pm

    I’m so sorry. Hugs to you from someone who has been there.

    Reply
  120. Michelle Adams says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:38 pm

    I was in your place 9 years. You and your family are in my prayers. Take all the time you need. We’ll be here when you’re able to return. Sending you love and hugs.

    Reply
  121. Leslie says

    July 15, 2024 at 6:52 pm

    You and your family are in my prayers.

    Reply
  122. Laura says

    July 15, 2024 at 8:27 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss. May your favorite memories of her bring you solace.

    Reply
  123. Allison says

    July 15, 2024 at 9:55 pm

    Sending hugs and my deepest sympathies. I know how hard this is and you need time to let things settle. Take what time you need, we will be here when you’re ready. Much love to you and your family.

    Reply
  124. Jeanette says

    July 15, 2024 at 10:20 pm

    So sorry for your loss. Gentle hugs from Canada. Take your time. Process. Come back to us when you’re ready. You are a bright spot in many lives and you need to take the time to care for yourself now.

    Reply
  125. Teri says

    July 16, 2024 at 12:09 am

    My sympathy….and coming right up behind you with a family member on hospice too…rank rookie here…and taking on new terror and stress and peace and gratitude moment by monent by the grace of Jesus Christ!

    Reply
    • lilbear says

      July 17, 2024 at 9:22 am

      We had a family member on home hospice for 9 months… Do make sure you have support in place so you can take actual breaks. You get incredibly worn down incredibly fast. And make SURE you have immediate access to escalated support (24hr care or in-facility care) if you need it. May your loved one’s journey be a peaceful one!

      Reply
  126. Coach Laura says

    July 16, 2024 at 1:01 am

    So sorry for your loss, Janice. Sending you and your whole family love and hugs.

    In the last 18 months, I’ve lost my husband, mother and father, all of which I provided care to over a number of months and years. It’s a hard but rewarding time.

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  127. Jennifer Taylor says

    July 16, 2024 at 5:21 am

    Sorry to hear of your loss.

    Reply
  128. Irene says

    July 16, 2024 at 5:39 am

    Dearest Janice,
    My sincere condolences . Please take the time to grieve and recuperate. We will be here when you are ready.
    Many hugs
    Irene,Sydney.

    Reply
  129. Sandra says

    July 16, 2024 at 7:41 am

    Thinking of you. With sincerest sympathy,

    Reply
  130. Danielle says

    July 16, 2024 at 8:29 am

    It’s been two years since losing my loved one. I joined a grief group because I really needed help. Two things I learned: that I could find peace in knowing I did everything humanly possible for her, and that I could talk and talk about her. I still do. A lot of people let me down by not acknowledging or minimizing the loss, but that only revealed their own souls. As long as I live, she lives. It also really helped me during the first year to write a long letter to her about every memory that I thought of, and all the feelings I had. My sympathies to you.

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  131. Leu2500 says

    July 16, 2024 at 8:49 am

    My condolences.

    & thank you for the tip on how to navigate your archive. I’ve been doing it very inefficiently.

    Reply
  132. Ally says

    July 16, 2024 at 9:08 am

    I lost my father in November and I can tell you the coming weeks will be filled with exhaustion. Tying up loose ends in the physical realm pales to what you will go through emotionally since you have kept yourself on an even keel for many months. You might find yourself crying at inopportune times or experiencing sleepless nights. Honestly take as much time as you need, say no when you need to, accept help when offered and all the hugs. No need to be ‘strong’ now..rest and rest some more.
    This is not the time for stiff upper lip or making others feel better. This is your time, set your boundaries and do what is needed to regain your strength physically and emotionally.
    Take care,
    Ally

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  133. chalotte says

    July 16, 2024 at 10:14 am

    Heartfelt condolences from Copenhagen, Janice.

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  134. C from Holland says

    July 16, 2024 at 11:12 am

    I have cried reading all these beautiful messages. I have been there. Best advise: don’t be strong, it is YOU time.
    Send you love from the Netherlands.

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    • Janice says

      July 16, 2024 at 11:49 am

      Me too…
      love,
      Janice

      Reply
  135. DEB says

    July 16, 2024 at 11:49 am

    Heartfelt condolences … from the Canadian Rocky Mountains

    Reply
  136. Jessica says

    July 16, 2024 at 3:37 pm

    So very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

    Reply
  137. Gail says

    July 16, 2024 at 4:42 pm

    So very sorry. May you find grace and strength in the coming weeks.

    Thank you so much for all you have done with this wonderful blog! It has been an inspiration and stress reliever for me!

    Take care of yourself and we will look forward to your return when you are ready!

    Reply
  138. Marcia Robinson says

    July 16, 2024 at 10:00 pm

    So sorry to hear of your mother’s end of life. Wishing that your wonderful memories of her will bring comfort now and much joy in the future.

    Reply
  139. Cynthia says

    July 16, 2024 at 11:27 pm

    Sending my deepest sympathy on your loss. Wishing you grace and peace. Accept help and take time to grieve and rest.

    Reply
  140. JoyceP says

    July 17, 2024 at 5:02 am

    So very sorry, Janice. My sympathies to you and your family! Take your time, and be gentle to yourself – (((((hugs))))) from the road in the UK.

    Reply
  141. Martine says

    July 17, 2024 at 6:25 am

    Peace for you from France
    Martine

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  142. Una Ireland says

    July 17, 2024 at 6:40 am

    Sending much love.
    Take all the time you need. You may well feel unmoored especially after many years of caregiving. There is no timeline or need to tie yourself back down to the riverbank. Let the grief take you where it will.

    Reply
  143. Johanna says

    July 17, 2024 at 8:15 am

    Sending love, hugs, and deepest sympathies. We’ll be here for you when you return.

    Reply
  144. Elizabeth says

    July 17, 2024 at 11:02 am

    Sending prayers from Arkansas! Take all the time you need. God bless!

    Reply
  145. KrisTh says

    July 17, 2024 at 2:07 pm

    Sending ~~~~Good Vibrations~~~~ to you, Janice and Belovedest.

    Reply
  146. Lorrie Orr says

    July 17, 2024 at 3:01 pm

    Much love to you, and prayers for comfort and peace in the days ahead. Take all the time you need.

    Reply
  147. Julie says

    July 18, 2024 at 12:59 am

    May you feel yourself surrounded by much love and support in the weeks ahead as you take care of practical details and process the particular complexities of your loss and the transition to a different way of living now that your caretaking days are over.

    Reply
  148. Lucinda says

    July 18, 2024 at 9:03 am

    Sending you love, hugs, and prayers. One of my caregiving projects ended last December.
    Deal with everything in your time and in your way.

    Reply
  149. Laura says

    July 18, 2024 at 1:24 pm

    Sending love your way ❤️💕

    Reply
  150. Amanda Hudson says

    July 18, 2024 at 2:20 pm

    So sorry for your loss. Aren’t you blessed and lucky to have had your mom for so many wonderful years? I hope the coming weeks are relaxing and restful.

    Reply
  151. Ruth says

    July 19, 2024 at 5:12 am

    Janice, take all the time you need to rest and be glad. Wishing you and your family strength to get though the sad times. Warm wishes from Colorado.

    Reply
  152. Beth T says

    July 19, 2024 at 2:01 pm

    So sorry to hear of the passing of your mother. You can draw comfort from the special time that you were able to spend with her and to meet her care needs in a loving home. You were with her at the end. Whilst perhaps anticipated, it can still seem unexpected. I hope that you and your husband will have support as you deal with her affairs. Perhaps in a few months have a holiday. My MIL passed in May. We have just had a holiday to see other family. It has been relaxing and restorative. Sending sympathy and hugs.

    Reply
  153. Paula R says

    July 20, 2024 at 9:05 am

    I am so sorry for your loss!

    Reply
  154. Erin York says

    July 20, 2024 at 4:50 pm

    What a beautiful bouquet! I hope you find similar brightness hidden in your days.

    Reply
  155. Gina says

    July 20, 2024 at 6:49 pm

    Janice, I am so sorry to read this. Having lived the caregiver life for a little over four years (my husband he passed away in late April), I know how taxing it can be on you physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually…it’s hard. You have poured yourself out as a drink offering. You have honored your mother. Please rest. May memories be a sweet comfort.

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  156. Cathy says

    July 21, 2024 at 4:53 pm

    Janice,
    I’m so sorry for your loss. May the good times and sweet memories bubble up. Much love and many hugs to you and your family.

    Reply
  157. Petra says

    July 21, 2024 at 8:01 pm

    Sending love to you and your family

    Reply
  158. Karen says

    July 22, 2024 at 7:12 am

    Take all the time you need, hugs!

    Reply
  159. Kathy C says

    July 22, 2024 at 10:07 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss and hope that you see light and love from all of your near, far, and remote friends and family.

    Reply
  160. Cheryl says

    July 22, 2024 at 7:49 pm

    I’m so very sorry for you loss. Sending hugs!

    Reply
  161. LaShel says

    July 23, 2024 at 9:58 am

    Janice, your service to your mother was a sacred offering and a gift of love. May you find comfort and peace in your memories and look forward to meeting again in the world to come.

    Much love from Spain,

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  162. Pepper from Minnesota says

    July 23, 2024 at 10:20 am

    Still thinking of you, and hoping that you are getting through this time with all the love and support you could wish for. You have been such a bright spot in all our lives here, Janice. I hope that you know that we are here for you, and will continue to be here for you, in the weeks and months to come. Get through all the turmoil of the next few weeks. Look at memory books. Feel your feels. Hug your loved ones. Take whatever time you need to replenish yourself. And then…take a trip. Go somewhere fascinating and remind yourself what it’s like to live and be happy. Your mom’s memory will always be right there in your heart. And if she was anything like you, I know that she would want you to find your joy again.

    We are here for you.

    Much love always.

    Reply
  163. Aurora says

    July 24, 2024 at 7:13 am

    So very sorry for your loss! Sending you love and hugs from Canada!

    Reply
  164. Sue Widick says

    July 26, 2024 at 11:00 am

    Please accept my deepest condolences. I will hold you in my heart.

    Reply
  165. Linda says

    July 29, 2024 at 9:50 am

    Hoping that the love and support of all your devoted and grateful readers reaches through the great virtual void. Blessings on you and all who loved your dear mother as you enter the Memory stage of daughter hood. Much love from Wisconsin.

    Reply
  166. Linda G. says

    August 3, 2024 at 10:31 pm

    I just saw this, and I am so sorry for your loss. May you find peace and comfort in the days ahead. Hugs to you.

    Reply

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